Item from the Smart
Marriages Archive, reproduced in the Divorce Statistics
Jewish World Review Oct. 4, 1999
A father's best gift? His presence
IT IS SAID that the best thing a father can do for his daughter is to
love her mother.
A girl lucky enough to observe her "first man" demonstrating affection
and respect for the woman with whom she most strongly identifies grows up
with confidence and high self-esteem.
More likely than not, she'll set her standards high when seeking her own
Now, new research published in the August issue of the Journal of
Personality and Social Psychology suggests that there's more fathers can
do: Be there.
The gist of the study of 173 girls and their families is that girls who
have a close, positive family relationship in their first five years --
especially with their fathers -- enter puberty later in life.
Specifically, the researchers found that girls reaching puberty later had
fathers who were active caregivers and had positive relationships with
Conversely, the researchers -- led by Dr. Bruce Ellis of the University
of Canterbury in New Zealand -- found that girls who grew up without
their father at home, or in dysfunctional homes where the father was
present, entered puberty earlier.
Why? Apparently, girls' biological clocks are tuned not only to their
physical environment but to the emotional atmosphere as well. We've all
heard of female roommates who, after living together a few months,
mysteriously synchronize their menstrual cycles. The same principle may
apply to the onset of puberty in relation to the man of the house.
Ellis and his colleagues believe that girls subconsciously adjust the
timing of their puberty based on their fathers' behavior. Pheromones --
those information-packed hormones we hear so much about -- hold the key.
The theory is that girls who grow up in a stable relationship with their
biological father are exposed to his pheromones, which causes them to
postpone puberty -- possibly as a shield against incest. Who knows? Maybe
Neanderthal Dad was a randy creep when Mom was napping.
Girls who grow up with stepfathers or their mothers' boyfriends, on the
other hand, are exposed to other-guy pheromones that may accelerate
puberty. Draw your own conclusions.
Those of us who grew up with fathers don't need convincing that dads
matter. Nevertheless, this research adds dimension to the arguments that
fathers are especially important to girls and their future well-being.
Even without scientific data, the researchers' theories make sense. We've
learned that girls who grow up without fathers tend to become sexually
active at earlier ages, that girls without fathers tend to look for male
approval in intimate relationships before they're emotionally ready.
In recent years, girls have become sexually active at earlier ages than
ever before in American history. Is it mere coincidence that,
simultaneously, more girls than ever are growing up in households without
their biological fathers?
It's a fact that girls are reaching puberty earlier and engaging in sex
sooner than they should. It's a fact that sexual activity leads to
unwanted pregnancy, disease and future health problems. Early sexual
activity and multiple partners are associated with cervical cancer, for
Logically, girls don't experiment with sex -- at least voluntarily --
until they've reached puberty. Logically, the later the onset of puberty,
Given that we can't seem to curb the news media's insatiable appetite for
titillation nor stem the onslaught of sexual messages that say "Just
It," we might do better to seek ways to postpone puberty. How nice
solution were as simple as having a good dad around the house.
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